“THROW BACK THURSDAY…..MY TWO BEST FRIENDS”
……………………………..Since it is graduation time, I though I would post this picture of my two best friends from high school, and through out my life…..When this picture at my house was taken by Jac,we were going to our 40th High School reunion!…..Mary Claudia Donnelly Chandler was my high school sweetheart. We met when we were in 7th grade and became friends right away…She was a fantastic artist, and I though she was just great. She was very beautiful…very tall, thin with long hair, and huge blue eyes…..She was very bohemian in spirit, and loved all that went with that….folk music and all. We went every where together, and every Sat. you could find us in the Village in NYC. I took Mary to both our junior and senior proms. I have a picture some where. I’ll have to search for it. While all of the other girls wore typical long prom dresses, Mary made a silver Mylar mini dress [she had great long legs]. Needless to say she stood out like a beacon, and I loved it. For our senior prom we triple dated with Bobby [in the photo above] and Phyllis, and another couple, Andrea and Eric. We went into the city and heard Edie Adams at the Royal Box. She made a big fuss over us as we were definitely the youngest people in the room. After that we went to a place called “Cheetah” a fabulous new disco. It was 1966! Mary went on to NYU and Bobby went to Wisconsin, and I went to Parsons…….We always remained close. Mary and I eventually broke up as a couple, but never as friends. When I designed at AK she would always come up to buy clothes, and later she became one of my best Linea customers! which she is wearing in the picture. She met a wonderful man named Ralph Chandler of the Chandler’s of California….think of the Dorothy Chandler Pavilion. They had two beautiful daughters. Unfortunately, Ralph died in his 50s from kidney disease leaving Mary a very young widow. She never remarried. Mary and I continued our friendship over the years and we would text and speak on the phone regularly…..I was always an ear she could talk to. Jac would joke and say that I should have married Mary……Whenever she would come to NYC we would always meet in the village or Soho, and spend the day together….Jac knew and liked Mary, and was fine with us spending time together…….She loved to visit the art galleries and go shopping. She and Jac became good friends, and Mary thought Jac was the perfect girl for me….She was right…………….Bobby Tirman was my BFF. We were brothers. We too met at Elmont Memorial High School in the 7th grade. At 13 I went to my very first Broadway show with Bobby, “How to Succeed In Business Without Really Trying” with Robert Morse. I have a very faded picture of the three of us at the stage door. Going to Broadway Saturday matinee shows became a thing we loved to do. We always ate at a restaurant called Toffenetti’s on Broadway in the center of Times Square….It was a 1000 seat restaurant and was a destination for 30 years…..It is long gone…….Through the years we did everything together. We traveled to Europe and went to Carnival in Rio when we were 20 [I have some great pictures of us]. When he moved back to NY after graduating from Wisconsin we rented our first apartment in NYC together. Many of our friends were the same, and we went out to the clubs together…..We were naughty boys!!!! but had great times….We rented summer houses together, and eventually he joined Jac and I in renting houses too…..Eventually, these two wild and crazy guys grew up, and our lives went in separate directions. No matter what we were up to or where we were we always spoke, and he would tell me of his new loves and what was going on in his life……….This past year I lost both of them………….Mary died from complications from diabetes…..She had it since she was a child….I remember being at her house after school. She was getting me something to drink from the refrigerator, and there were all of these vials lined up on the door. I asked her what they were and she explained that they were hers and what they were for. She never ever made a big deal of it, and no one would have ever known she had diabetes……….Bobby passed away from kidney failure…He was sick for a long time and at the end was in a care facility. I wanted to visit him so badly, but because of Covid I wasn’t allowed. It haunts me that my best friend died alone……..Other than Jac these are the people I loved most in my life, and it is so hard to loose them. Sometimes I find myself thinking, “Oh, I have to give Mary a call”, or “I wonder what Bobby is up to?” and then I remember. There is a very large hole in my heart where my friends belong. I know they are all together, Jac, Mary and Bobby….and someday I will be with them again.